Chapter 12 - Good Grief

            Hi! Welcome back to your incredible journey of healing, brought to you through Jesus Christ.

          Let us give God all the glory and praise that is due Him as you continue your personal healing.

          I hope you took the time to work through the exercises and realized how important it is to reconstruct your heart.

          "Were you surprised at your behavior pattern, especially where negativity was concerned?" Let me assure you that Satan loves it when we are negative, and he uses it against us.

It is one of his favorite weapons!

          But, when our hearts begin to resemble Christ's, it is hard for us to remain steadfast in our negative ways.

          When we are able to control our negative thoughts, with the help of Christ, then Satan loses another stronghold.

          Instead of being in constant turmoil, we begin to experience the peace of God in all situations, which helps us maintain our spiritual walk.

          Now that you understand how important it is for us to reconstruct our hearts, it is time for you to embark upon the final steps of your personal healing journey.

This chapter, "Good Grief," is what God has been preparing you for.

          In order for us "to complete the reconstruction of our hearts, we need to grieve the damaged and hurt areas."

          We often identify grief as sadness, and this is true, for the most part.

However, grief is not always a bad thing!  In fact, it can be a very good thing.

Grieving helps us bring closure to the hurt areas of our hearts!

          As you work through this chapter you will need to remind yourself of this simple yet effective statement:

Grieve IT and Leave IT!

          Although most of us never realize it, "grieving allows us to come to terms with our losses and regain control of our lives."

        Our inner conflict is usually created because of horrible experiences from our past.

          "We cannot seem to get the bad experiences out of our thoughts," and "these thoughts are thrown at us by our mind monsters."

          These mind monsters strategically hide themselves along the road of our lives.

          And, when we are most vulnerable, they come from out of nowhere and frighten us.

          The healing beauty of experiencing this type of "Good Grief" is that you will be able to recognize your losses and grieve them, one stage at a time.

          As you journey through this chapter, you will begin "to conquer and maintain control over the mind monsters," which will allow you to live your life without their interference.

          I am not saying that they will not try to frighten you in the future, but I am saying that you will be able to recognize what a "mind monster" is, and you will know how to defeat it and extinguish it.

There are six stages of grief that you will work through.

          At times you may feel that you are not strong enough to deal with the grieving process, "and this is true where the flesh is concerned."

But you have a higher power to call on, and His name is Jesus Christ.

          Philippians 4:13 reassures us that we "can do all things through Christ" who strengthens us.

          Please understand that it is VITAL for you to complete all six stages of the healing process.  This chapter will focus on the first five stages.  Stage 6 has its own chapter.

Do not rush yourself.

Allow yourself to completely grieve each stage before moving to the next one.

This is what your journey has been all about!

This is what you have been searching for!

This is for YOU!

Before you begin each stage, remember to get in your safe zone.

Put on your armor of God.

Beware of the mind monsters.

And PRAY, asking Christ to strengthen you.

GRIEVE IT, then LEAVE IT at Jesus' feet.

          Once you have experienced the true beauty of good grief, meet me in Chapter 13, "Faithful Forgiveness," and we, along with Christ, will complete the final stage in  your personal journey of healing.

          Until then, "may the footsteps along your journey of life always lead you to God."